Andrew M Vincent
21/12/1954 – 01/02/2022
It is with profound sadness and a heavy heart that I share with you the news that Andrew; Co-Founder and CEO of Nova Vida passed away peacefully at home in Portugal, with his devoted ‘wifey’; Sally by his side, on February 1st, 2022.
Andrew was many things to many people, and I would like to invite you to share what he meant to you and the impact he had on your life in the guestbook below.
After Andrew got sober over 28 years ago, he made it his life’s mission to help others find their freedom from addiction. For over 25 years he has been a shining beacon to hundreds of addicts and in turn their families. If Andrew was a part of your journey in life, you will know full well, he didn’t have to knock your walls down with a sledgehammer. Instead, he made you feel safe enough to tear them down yourself. And, in his very unassuming way, he was there waiting for you, to point you in the right direction. That’s just who he was in every aspect of his life.
YOU ARE HIS LEGACY.
As per Andrew’s wishes there will not be a public service, just as in life he will leave us humbly and simply and will rest under the olive tree with D for dog. Donations may be made in Andrew’s name to Cancer research
Our love goes to Sally at this sad and difficult time, she is being comforted by her boys, Doug and Grant, and their wives and children.
Sally would like to thank Andrew’s medical team at Gambelas Hospital, Dr Heleena, Nurse Judi and his home palliative care team.
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream - and not make dreams your master, If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breathe a word about your loss; If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch, If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, If all men count with you, but none too much; If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds' worth of distance run, Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it, And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!
He will be missed. And you are all in my thoughts. Especially Sally, who was the Yin to Andrew's Yang.
Andrew was such an understated, wise, and intuitive man whom I trusted implicitly. There is no magic wand to turn your life around, but Andrew certainly showed me the tools to allow me to better manage.
He used such thought provoking phrases one of which is that “ you know your own Truth” we certainly do and in Grey moments I have used this phrase to reassure myself that I did my best and all will be well.
I still do not like to experience certian feelings, but Andrew mindful of your wise worlds I try I really do try.
Your resting place sounds idyllic.
Thank you once again Wendy
Andrew was such a wonderful, caring man. He hid behind this extra cool exterior but he really did care about everybody he treated and he had a very dry sense of humour which sometimes took a while to understand. He was very funny and I loved him as a friend and carer. I have never known such kindness from anyone. I think he began to build my confidence in men.
He was so very kind to me - as were you - picking me up from Sevilla airport. I very much enjoyed those trips with you and learned a lot about your close relationship with Andrew - with it’s ups and downs and you both created a wonderful marriage and a rehab centre to help others.
He was also very generous - allowing me to come to your rehab without paying for a month and he was very faithful in chatting to me once a week.
i am heartbroken for you.
I hope the magic olive tree of Andrew gives you the strengh to keep forward in this new path with all the love of the world that is in you already
You Will be Always in my heart
You all left good memories and where a part of a great time in my life. Thanks for that and thats how I'll remember you all and Andrew
5 years later I lost again hope and trust. I asked Andrew for help. They took me in without any hesitation
The safe environment , treatment, patience made it possible to get back on the track.
And then for the 3 time I relapsed. One sentence was enough for Vincrnt and Sally
to pick me up again.
Andrew you did so much for me.
I was lucky to meet you in my life.
A good man passed away.
You have a special place in my
Andrew was a lovely man, he helped me a lot and in fact he still does, I often recall our conversations and his counsel.
We are forever indebted to you all for the help you gave to Laura, your kindness and compassion. You were the first people to ever see all Laura's problems and you gave her the confidence and support to carry on with her life. Without Andrew,Sally and Alex I think it doubtful Laura would be with us today and know your teachings still help her cope with life.
What a great loss RIP Andrew
May you rest in peace knowing you changed the lives of so many people. I take this opportunity to thank you for giving me a chance to fight the disease of addiction, without you, Alex, Sally and all the team I wouldn’t have had that chance.
You are and were one of a kind with such a nice personality, caring of others more than yourself.
Thank you so much , you will live on in us all.
RIP god bless xxx
I will be sober now for 3 years tomorrow (the day I arrived at Nova Vida). I will never forget the kindness you showed me when you collected me from the airport, a broken person, I left one month later stuck back together.
Everyone at Nova Vida wrapped me in kindness, I will never forget my time there, my refuge. I used to joke with Andrew on our calls that you must have sent magic dust through the ventilators that made people well!
Andrew was such a wonderful counsellor with a great sense of humour and great sense of normality. I continued telephone counselling until about this time last year. Andrew must have known I was ready to “fly solo” and left it to me to call if I needed to. I always knew he was at the end of the phone if I did need him, thankfully I didn’t, but to hear he is no longer here to spread his wisdom is difficult to take in.
All I can say is thank you Andrew from the bottom of my heart you changed and saved my life.
I today know, thanks to the fantastic counceling, after care, and personal loving care for me at Nova Vida, that it is all about me doing my job, making my decisions, dealing with my consequences, that it is my way that can change the world`s way, this is the impact Andrew had on my life.
We even went on an adventure together, USA, Grand Canyon, I would not have done it without him and the help of Nova Vida in all aspects. On that trip we suffered together, we laughed together and I felt honoured being allowed to see a vulnerable part of Andrew, as he saw all of my vulnerability on that adventure. Than trip changed my life again, gave it more to think about and where I need to change, and Andrew has been there ever since.
I am thinking of you Sally, our Nova Vida Mom and beautiful soul, always there, always caring, I will keep the memory of you, Andrew and me sitting on your terrasse in summer 2021 forever in my heart.
Andrew will live forever in my heart, as he is part of me through all the changes I was able to make, I will give my best to honour him in my decisions, actions, will try to become a better, more useful to people in need version of myself, I think that is the impact he had on my life and that of my family
Rest in peace, Andrew, I know you are smiling down at us
I know that it was Terry’s great privilege to help Andrew in any way he could with the work of Nova Vida and was proud to establish the Monday evening After Care sessions in our home.
Terry and I also so much enjoyed Andrew staying with us during the UKESAD conferences held in London and I still have the canvas bag Terry brought home with him and which had originally contained brochures of treatment centres. We always worried about Andrew starting off the day with only a black coffee!
I also remember our shared passion for the Bernie Gunther novels and have the very last book that Philip Kerr wrote - “Metropolis” - still sitting on my bedside table, 4 years after it was published in 2018, my reading habit having sadly suffered after Terry died. However, as homage to both our beloved and remarkable husbands, I will now endeavour to finish it this February. I could go on ……. I had intended to write a personal letter to you, Sally, but then saw the tributes format so I have adapted it somewhat, and left out a lot. Suffice to say that Andrew was a dear and exceptional man in countless ways and he will live on in those he helped and whose lives he touched.
I arrived at Nova Vida on 30.06.2019, after hitting my rock bottom. Previous treatment elsewhere had left me scared during treatment and releaved when I could get out of it. With empty hands and an empty backpack. From the first day I met Andrew, all fear faded away. During my stay, Andrew confronted me with my demons, and gave me a backpack full of tools to cope with them. I was a better person when I left. And even though I am not always on the pink cloud I was on when I left, I am now still a happy husband, a proud father and most of all alive, which I might not have been, if it wasn't for Andrew, making me version 2.0 of myself. I trust you look down from your own cloud now with satisfaction on all the people you gave their version 2.0. Rest in peace, my friend. You will be dearly missed. My condoleances to Sally, family and the huge Nova Vida family.
Forever keep your memory alive.. You human giant.
My wife and I sends our deepest sympathy and prayers for you Sally and all the brave people from the Nova Vida Family.
You will be in my heart always. Rest in Peace, dear Andrew.
My thoughts are with Sally, her boys, Alex and all the former and current staff members of Nova Vida. Nova Vida is the best that ever happened to me. I am eternal grateful for you all.
My heart goes out to you Sally 💕🙏🏼
I looked upon Andrew as a true and valuable friend. He could always make time however busy to be of help not only to myself, with humour, strength of opinion and the guidance. He will be most seriously missed.
After my life had changed for the better, Andrew helped me change my professional life around as well. He directed me to the best training programme and was kind enough to provide a letter of recommendation. And he continued mentoring me through the years. It was only after starting work in an addiction treatment centre, that I realised how exceptional the level and quality of care provided at NV was. And what it takes to maintain these standards. It took several more years for it to sink in that Andrew’s, kind, gentle and unassuming manner was not just a testament to his character. Only the supremely skilled can make what they do seem as effortless as he did.
Nova Vida’s 34th Street Policy was a testament to Andrew’s impeccable professional and ethical standards. Not long after opening its doors, a series of economic crises hit Nova Vida and all of us, taking a terrible toll. Faced with difficult choices, Andrew and Sally never wavered in their resolve to put patient’s interests first, refusing to compromise. Nova Vida never let profit or even economic survival prevail over patient’s interests; I believe Andrew and Sally’s commitment to their principles came at a high price. A lesser man would have been sorely tempted to lower his standards, as many in the business did during those difficult times.
Shocked and saddened by the news of his passing, our family is grateful for his friendship and encouragement to “realise your fullest potential and greatest dreams” and leading by example. Our thoughts are with Sally, her boys, and their families.
With all his knowledge and care , Andrew certainly left this world a better place and has left a huge void in many lives.
To Sally, I hope the love from so many bring you comfort.
I'm not sure how to do this. How the fuck can I try and describe someone so special to me in plain old words? Language can feel limited when it comes to expressing the overwhelming and huge emotions of grief. I’ve received so many messages these last few days and have heard from many people from many places around the world saying “there are no words” – well, there are. There are words…
To say Andrew was my friend would be doing an injustice to our relationship; I have known Andrew longer than any other person in my life. He was my friend, my mentor, my business partner and most importantly, my partner in crime… He said in his last visit to me this past November that I had given him permission to be a kid and get into trouble and not worry about it because he always had me to blame. And get in trouble we did, I have no idea how many times Sally; his devoted wife, would just look at us, shake her head and laughingly walk away whilst muttering something about adult supervision.
He didn’t need me to be anything other than me and I didn’t need him to be anything other than him. He was intelligent, he was funny, he was serious, he was grumpy, he was steady, he was calm, he was diplomatic; fuck, was he diplomatic, he could tell someone to go fuck themselves in a way it wouldn’t register until they walked out of his office, and even then, they’d be looking forward to doing it!
Since June 2nd, last year; the day he was diagnosed with a brain tumor, I spoke with him daily, sometimes twice a day, if he was unable to sleep, he’d facetime, and we’d shoot the breeze at 4am. In November he and Sally flew out to TN in between his chemo sessions, and we spent a lot of time all together. There was laughter, there was connection, there was sadness and of course, the difficult conversation that no one wants to have. I saw it as an honor that he gave me his list and instructions, so as not to put all of the burden on Sally. Although he was physically weak, his strength of mind, his determination and courage remained. Little did we know that his unfinished life would become finished less than 8 weeks later. Those happy memories are tainted with sadness as I realize that for each of the things we did together, there was a last time and there will never be another. As I type this, I know there was nothing unsaid between us, he knew I loved him and what he meant in my life, and he knew I would fulfil all my promises to him.
Andrew left us at one minute past one on the morning of February 1st, he was at home in Portugal, looking out onto his garden. His ‘wifey’ Sally was with him holding his hand when he closed his eyes for the final time. It was calm, it was peaceful, it was exactly how he wanted it.
Andrew didn’t let many people close to him, but I was fortunate enough to be one that he did. The mosaic of lessons I’m left with are a compass I will keep close, a true north that will always point me in the right direction. I see now he was a gift. Even his death, dare I say, holds in it gifts of guidance. That is the best way I can make sense of this, for now.
So, I guess the words I’m trying to say, are I loved him and I’m going to miss him tremendously…
Some special people have made a lifelong, deep impact on my life, Andrew was one and I shall always be grateful.
Me and Max sent all of you and espaccialy Sally our love and our thoughts are with you.
Marja and Max
I will be eternally grateful and carry a part of him in my heart.
Thank you Sally for letting him shine and sharing him with all of us.
Andrew will be missed. ❤️
I would like to say more but im without words...sending my love to you...
My heart goes out to Sally, who was there with Andrew and Alex from the beginning. Outside therapy Sally was the warm person that always had a nice word or hug, and made you feel wanted and at home.
He has meant so much to me, so sad. Such a nice person who has given so many a chance for a good life is always beatifully preserved in my memory
Rest in Peace knowing you helped Thousands of people 🙏
You picked me up Literally from Under a tree ,And changed My life forever . Andrew’s weekly chats ,dry humour, huge knowledge ,personal experience his fascinating ability to not judge yet take no nonsense matched with a heart the size of the collective 100s he helped, is not only an inspiration but a beautiful reminder that there are really good people .did nt rant didnt push pull or manipulate , made us do it ourselves .the perfect listener the perfect adviser and effortlessly kept it all in check .
A truly great person that I will personally miss with all my heart
Sally I’m so sorry for your loss .
I am so sorry to hear about Andrew’s passing. I can’t imagine how it must be for you. You were his rock enabling him to help so many others, including myself. I will not be here in this good space without Andrew. The world is a bit sadder that he is no longer. My deepest sympathies to you and the boys. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you or Nova Vida. I really mean it.
Both Nicola and I , are devastated ,
to have heard from Leo , the heartbreaking news , that dearest lovely Andrew , has passed away .
All our thoughts and prayers , are with you , during this saddest and most difficult times , you are going through .
With all our heart , we send you , our deepest sympathy and condolences.
Also to all your families and the wider community family circle , who's rock Andrew was .
We will always remember Andrew ,
with so much love and affection ,
for the unique and special man he was , full of wisdom , care and love and total dedication , to his cause , of helping others through recovery .
An inspiration and shining torch .
A beacon of light and force of good .
And together with you , always by his side , you both made such a positive imprint , on the world and to all the lives and souls that met you .
Andrew will always be , in all of our hearts and so will you , dearest Sally .
Thank you both with all our heart .
Rest In Peace dear Andrew 🙏🏼
May all blessings and light ,
always accompany your beautiful soul 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
What a kind, warm, gentle, unpretentious and generous human being we have lost. Always a listening ear, he was a master in inspiring and empowering others. Someone you could trust unconditionally. Thank you for the privilege of having been your pupil.
Despite years of not actually being in contact I have always held that moment in mind and gratitude is not adequate enough a word to express my feelings for Andrew,
Thank you Andrew, thank you from the bottom of my heart.
He was a great man to uplift the soul, sooth recovery nerves or simply bring a smile to your face with his wit.
He never failed to make my day better, I'll really miss our chats.
My sincere condolences to Sally, the family and his wonderful staff at Nova Vida.
Rest in peace, Andrew!
He was then a very perceptive and caring Gentleman
He was also a very attentive good listener.
His soul will continue to listen, and receive many thanks and good wishes for all those he has saved and given them the opportunity to live life as it should be.
I will light a candle for him.
Thank you AV🙏
Andrew was a steady light in a very dark hole I found myself in 14 years ago
Truly beautiful kind man
All my love
Richard Nicky and Grace
My recovery family xxx
I first met Andrew when I arrived at Priory Sturt, almost 23 years ago. As my counsellor he had a significant impact on me, such was his capacity to show me care, respect and perhaps above all, value. He continued his support through the first couple of years, always making time. He encouraged and nurtured my interest in then training as a therapist, and was a mentor to me throughout that process .
Thank you Andrew, I owe you so much.... One of a kind, a truly warm and special human being whom I was so very lucky to meet .Rest in peace xx
Love and heartfelt condolences to you Sally, he was special x
To me, he was a stepfather who came into my life when I was seven and my brother was nine. I don’t know a lot about Andrew´s life before this point, but he has told me stories of his worldly travels as a “diplomat” for the Foreign Office. (I am convinced he was a spy!). Cold war Russia, Poland, Bangladesh, Kuwait, Jordan and more.
In those very different times of the 1970s and 80s, it seems there was a culture of hard drinking in diplomatic circles and perhaps Andrew, just a young Plymouth lad of 18 at the time, was led astray or not sufficiently protected. Andrew of course would deny this and take full responsibility himself.
Combined with family issues, Andrew´s drinking landed him in a bad place in the 90s but fortunately for him he met Sally, my mum. At a time when nobody else would have, Sally stood by Andrew despite him letting her down many times as he fought his issues. As the full force of his addiction took hold, Andrew sunk to levels of desperation that anybody who knew him in later life would not believe.
Yet there was Sally to save him. Mum epitomises words that are cheaply thrown about. Loyalty, devotion, determination. I can never repay Mum for the sacrifices she made to bring up me and Douglas and give us a platform upon which we´ve built our own success and families.
With Mum´s support Andrew would make his fateful decision to enter the Broadreach recovery centre in Plymouth and tackle his issues. Six weeks later he emerged a new man in February 1994, his life back in his own hands. Blessedly no longer a servant to his addiction.
Within months Andrew decided that he wanted to help others achieve the same turnaround in their lives. He successfully applied to become a trainee counsellor at Broadreach amid stiff competition. During a year of training he must have shined brightly because he was mysteriously invited to interview for a position at one of the hospitals of the esteemed Priory Group.
Andrew quickly made his mark, eventually becoming head of the addictions unit of the Priory´s principal centre in Roehampton Priory. During his time with Priory he was fortunate to meet Alex Flood.
Sally, Andrew and Alex went on to found Nova Vida and this is where most of you guys will join the story. Without any one of them, it couldn’t have been done.
I am so proud to call Andrew my stepfather and I was fortunate to have been with him in his final hours. He passed peacefully in a hospital bed which specially set up for him in the lounge of his house, with Sally of course by his side and the inspirational nurse Judi. He was able to overlook his beloved garden in his final days.
As I write this it is less than 24 hours since he passed and already the messages pouring in to mum´s phone are overwhelming joyous, deeply moving and very comforting for our family to hear. I have heard several times already that he saved lives and former patients have gone on to start families thanks to Andrew.
Andrew spent the second half of his life, giving others a new life. Not many people leave a legacy so great.
I would finally like to thank somebody who knows who they are, for their extreme generosity and support in Andrew's last months.
Rest in peace old mate.
He showed that even though I was depressed and angry after a hard time after my back then girlfriend cancer treatment, loss of grandparents and childhood that come up to the earth.
I felt that I was not good enough to anyone, and what I did was never enough.
Before arrival in Nova Vida I had suicidal thoughts.
Andrew saw that I was not a bad person. I had lost my light. Which he gave back to me by showing the way.
After Nova Vida, we had conversations every other week to make sure I was on track.
Be course of that Andrew and his teaching involved in turning my whole life around, and gave me strength and hope for the journey. He is now a prophet to me
In his presence, I felt safe and that he quickly became a father figure to me. even during his own illness, he wrote the following to me, and his last word to me.
”I hope all is going ok with you and your aims and goals remain in place. I have always had faith in you, you can do it, do it.”
I know Andrew is sitting with the other prophets looking down on us to protect and guide us to the light.
I will never forget what Andrew taught me, and the hope and his strong faith in me.
I send a prayer to all Nova Vida, will get through it well and remember what we learned.
Lets his light shine and as on the mail, I and we are now a part of his legacy.
therefore I will honour him by continuing my journey toward the light which he saw in me and I also realized by being in his company.
I also send a thought to Sally and the Nova Vida team.
I pray for everyone and myself that we will remember what Andrew taught us.
He will still guide and protect us and myself, from his seat from the east, whit the light he has given us all.
Andrew, you were my second father, emotional safety and spiritual Home.
I will honour and Prove to you the strong faith you saw and always had in me.
To the rest of Former Novo Vidian, let's show Andrew that we are able to do it, so he can smile down at us.
Realize your fullest potential and greatest dreams
Jeppe Johannes Schou
Nova Vida 17.07.2019 - 06.08.2019
I don’t even know where to start, all I can Say is Thank you for everything!
Sally , thank you for giving me a 2nd chance and helping me becomes who I am today.
Rest In Peace Andrew, we will miss you , stay strong Sally
Lots of Love , Lukas .
May he rest in peace for all the good he was doing in the world. I'm grateful I was fortunate enough to get to know him and Sally. Many warm thoughts to Sally and everyone else who knew Andrew!
“Even when the cloud is not there, it continues as snow or rain. It is impossible for the cloud to die. It can become rain or ice, but it cannot become nothing. The cloud does not need to have a soul in order to continue. There’s no beginning and no end. I will never die. There will be a dissolution of this body, but that does not mean my death... I will continue, always.”
Sending my condolences to his lovely wife sally & family
My deepest condolences to Sally, family and Andrew’s colleagues.
He will be missed by many.
to his family.